It’s okay to not have it all figured out, to fall down, to fail, to freak out. It’s okay to feel afraid. It really is. What’s not okay is letting any of this stop you. You can feel it, but you can’t be it.
Fear is My Homeboy: How to Slay Doubt, Boss Up, and Succeed on Your Own Terms
If you haven’t had a curve ball thrown at you in life, let’s face it, you ain’t in the game. I am not only in the game, I never seem to miss one. In fact, there’s been quite a few pickup games, too. I don’t live by Murphy’s Law- what can go wrong, will go wrong -, but I do seem to hit a lot of foul balls or catch grounders. Do I give up? Never. Do I get hurt sometimes? You bet I do! Do I regret some of my decisions? Of course. Will I keep making mistakes and failing at things? Hello? Have you met me?
The idea behind this is to never stop trying. Sure, it might be tough, embarrassing, painful, or even comical, but you’ll never work it out or succeed if you just stop trying. I have yet to meet anyone who has it all figured out and, if they say they do, I’d have to call them out on that. Life is never a smooth road or a straight one for that matter. We are always facing something we’d rather not. We are often called upon to do something we don’t have the confidence for or a situation where we are suddenly thrust into being the mature one or wise one. Some days I just want to throw my crayons in the air and tell everyone to go home. Do I do it? No. And I’ve been teased and ridiculed for not doing it.
You’re only defeated if you allow someone else to win. You’re only a quitter if you stop trying. In other words, it is completely up to you how something is going to play out and where you stand in the end. Your attitude and outlook on things are what dictate how you will respond. Feeling like the whole world sees you as a failure? Believing that will make it so. Thinking only bad things happen to you? Then they will keep on happening.
There’s nothing wrong with freaking out or being down. It’s human to be scared of things or overwhelmed. The emotions are perfectly normal. But it can’t be the thing that freezes you into place or allows you to wallow in self-pity. Acknowledge those feelings. Examine them, find the reason for it, then push it aside and get on with it. As my mother used to say, “Pick yourself up by the bootstraps and get over it! It’s not the end of the world.” If you need help doing that, then please, please, please, get it. There are some situations bigger than us. Again, it’s ok to admit that. It’s not a sign of weakness to struggle with tough things in our lives. You aren’t the first and won’t be the last. Everybody is dealing with something.
While the world may always seem like a crazy place, your life doesn’t have to be so out of control. Living a healthy lifestyle, being informed, and understanding your emotions and how they affect your life are ways to avoid crashing and burning. Give them credence, but don’t get stuck in that spot. Never giving up means having hope that nothing is permanent no matter how terrible it may seem at the time. So, if you need to step aside and find a peaceful place, get help, or look for answers, that’s all well and good. Just don’t give up. That was yesterday; today is another story. You are different because of your failings, falling down, or freaking out. It’s important to know how different and in what way. Then use it for your own benefit. It’s so easy to quit, but don’t. Keep your eye on the prize. Batter up! And try, try again.